Hey, everyone! So I’ve realized in the past couple of days that working from home while being a mother to two children is going to be a lot more difficult than I thought. I can barely find time to write this blog, let alone find 4-5 hours a day to do anything to earn money. This post is probably going to come across as me complaining, and I don’t mean to complain, but sometimes it is good to vent your frustrations out in the open. So this is a warning to all of you readers that this post may seem a bit negative!
I love my husband. He works his butt off every day at his job to provide for our family, and when he comes home, he pretty much takes over with the kids and keeps them entertained while I spend the evenings doing a million things I couldn’t get to during the day. The problem I’m having now that I’m trying to work and bring some income in, though, is that I feel that he doesn’t recognize or appreciate my efforts. He doesn’t spend all day every day with the kids and he seems to think that all I do every day is “play”, so I should have plenty of energy and motivation to start working as soon as he gets home.
He also expects for me to cook dinner every night, keep the house clean, make sure he has clean clothes, keep the pantry and refrigerator stocked, and countless other things. He never comes out and says that he expects all of those things, but the few times he hasn’t had clean pants or we’ve run out of milk, he has definitely voiced his frustration about it. For those of you who stay at home with your young kids, I know you can agree with me that it is basically impossible to do any household chores during the day. Yeah, you might be able to throw a load of laundry into the washing machine, but the minute you start to fold the clothes and put them away, your kids start screaming or need you to get them some food, or some other emergency pops up.
Before I started this journey of trying to work from home, I used the evenings to get all of my household chores done while my husband played with the kids. Now, I lock myself in the office as soon as he gets home and try to work, in between interruptions by him and the kids. I feel like the only time I can truly concentrate is after everyone has gone to sleep, so I have been staying up until 2 or 3 am every morning just to get some work done. The kids usually wake up around 7:30 am, so if you do the math, I’m barely getting any sleep now. For anyone who knows me, I need sleep to be a functioning member of society!
So I’ve done a lot of thinking about all of this the past couple of days and have made some realizations. First, I need to teach my kids how to clean the house. There’s not too much a 2 year old and a 4 year old can really do when it comes to cleaning, but they’re going to learn. I plan to make it into a game for both of them and we’ll see how that goes. Second, my husband needs to start doing the grocery shopping on the weekends so I can take that responsibility off of my plate. He can take the kids with him and see just how fun it is to take two young children shopping. Ha! Third, I need to go to the library or the coffee shop down the street in the evenings so I can actually concentrate without interruptions. Yes, it will keep me from seeing my husband, but it will also give me the ability to go to sleep at a decent time, which is best for everyone involved in this situation. Lastly, I need to go back and read my own advice about time management. Maybe I shouldn’t be worrying about how clean the house is right now. Once I start making enough money, we can pay someone to come clean it!
Sorry for the long rant. I really do want to use this blog as a way to help other moms like me figure out how to make working from home a reality.
I just realized how quiet it is in my house, which is never a good thing when you have two young children, so I gotta run!