Category: General

Do You Ever Want to Pull Your Hair Out?

Hey, everyone!  So I’ve realized in the past couple of days that working from home while being a mother to two children is going to be a lot more difficult than I thought.  I can barely find time to write this blog, let alone find 4-5 hours a day to do anything to earn money.  This post is probably going to come across as me complaining, and I don’t mean to complain, but sometimes it is good to vent your frustrations out in the open.  So this is a warning to all of you readers that this post may seem a bit negative!

I love my husband.  He works his butt off every day at his job to provide for our family, and when he comes home, he pretty much takes over with the kids and keeps them entertained while I spend the evenings doing a million things I couldn’t get to during the day.  The problem I’m having now that I’m trying to work and bring some income in, though, is that I feel that he doesn’t recognize or appreciate my efforts.  He doesn’t spend all day every day with the kids and he seems to think that all I do every day is “play”, so I should have plenty of energy and motivation to start working as soon as he gets home.

He also expects for me to cook dinner every night, keep the house clean, make sure he has clean clothes, keep the pantry and refrigerator stocked, and countless other things.  He never comes out and says that he expects all of those things, but the few times he hasn’t had clean pants or we’ve run out of milk, he has definitely voiced his frustration about it.  For those of you who stay at home with your young kids, I know you can agree with me that it is basically impossible to do any household chores during the day.  Yeah, you might be able to throw a load of laundry into the washing machine, but the minute you start to fold the clothes and put them away, your kids start screaming or need you to get them some food, or some other emergency pops up.

Before I started this journey of trying to work from home, I used the evenings to get all of my household chores done while my husband played with the kids.  Now, I lock myself in the office as soon as he gets home and try to work, in between interruptions by him and the kids.  I feel like the only time I can truly concentrate is after everyone has gone to sleep, so I have been staying up until 2 or 3 am every morning just to get some work done.  The kids usually wake up around 7:30 am, so if you do the math, I’m barely getting any sleep now.  For anyone who knows me, I need sleep to be a functioning member of society!

So I’ve done a lot of thinking about all of this the past couple of days and have made some realizations.  First, I need to teach my kids how to clean the house.  There’s not too much a 2 year old and a 4 year old can really do when it comes to cleaning, but they’re going to learn.  I plan to make it into a game for both of them and we’ll see how that goes.  Second, my husband needs to start doing the grocery shopping on the weekends so I can take that responsibility off of my plate.  He can take the kids with him and see just how fun it is to take two young children shopping.  Ha!  Third, I need to go to the library or the coffee shop down the street in the evenings so I can actually concentrate without interruptions.  Yes, it will keep me from seeing my husband, but it will also give me the ability to go to sleep at a decent time, which is best for everyone involved in this situation.  Lastly, I need to go back and read my own advice about time management.  Maybe I shouldn’t be worrying about how clean the house is right now.  Once I start making enough money, we can pay someone to come clean it!

Sorry for the long rant.  I really do want to use this blog as a way to help other moms like me figure out how to make working from home a reality.

I just realized how quiet it is in my house, which is never a good thing when you have two young children, so I gotta run!

-Katie

Just Checking In

Hey, guys!  Once again, I’m going to apologize for not checking in with all of you for quite some time.  Between entertaining the kids, trying to grow my business, getting ready for Halloween (my favorite holiday!), and everything else that goes with daily life, I barely have time to eat, much less write a blog post.  I know you all understand what I’m talking about.

So I don’t really have much to talk about in this post, just wanted to see how everyone is doing out there and see if anyone has made any progress on their journey to become a work at home mom.  I’m still plugging away at learning all about search engine optimization, helping my couple of clients with their sites, and trying to figure out how to find more clients.  That’s the hardest part, since I don’t have too much experience with all of this stuff.

Sometimes I just wish there were about 10 more hours in each day.  I have so many ideas about things I’d like to do to make more money…like painting old furniture and distressing it, inventing items to help the average mom out, organizing people’s spaces (mine included!)…the list could go on.  For now, I’m just going to enjoy and cherish all the precious moments I get to experience with the kiddos, keep working towards my goal of making lots of money, and thank my husband daily for being such a hard worker and allowing me to stay at home with the kids.  I know it was a necessity when I first quit, but now that our preemie daughter is thriving, I’m sure she would be fine going to a daycare.  I just wouldn’t be fine with it.  It still amazes me how much our lives have changed in just a couple of years.

Well, I gotta run.  Laundry and cleaning and planning dinner are all pressing issues right now and I have about 20 minutes left of nap time to get it all done!  Comment and let me know where you guys are with your work from home jobs!

Katie

Take Action

Hey, everyone!  I just realized I haven’t made a post in quite awhile.  Sorry about that for all of you who sit on the edge of your seat waiting for me to post a blog every day!  Ha!  So we’ve been super busy with the holiday last weekend, working on getting the kids on the same sleeping and eating schedules, me trying to manage my time and work in between raising kids and running a household.  I know I talked about time management in another post, and just wanted to say that it is definitely a lot harder than it sounds!  I’ve gone for a couple of days at a time without taking a shower, I usually stay in my pajamas until 2 or 3 in the afternoon, and my house is a wreck right now, but I have been making some progress with the job hunt!

I signed up with www.freelancer.com which is a site where you can offer pretty much any type of service you want.  You create a profile describing your experience and your skills, and people post whatever type of services they are looking for.  You can then place a bid on the service, and they choose whichever one they like out of all of the bids.  I haven’t landed a job through them yet, but I’m not giving up.  I’m pretty sure your ratings and reviews from other clients play a big role in getting jobs, and since I don’t have any experience on this site, I don’t have any reviews or ratings yet.  I’m thinking I’m going to have to get some of my friends to post jobs and give me ratings just so I’ll be able to get some legitimate jobs.  That’s not too dishonest, is it?  I’m just trying to be creative here!

I’ve also put some posts on craigslist offering content writing services, tutoring services, and virtual assistant services.  I had one person reply to my post and got so excited, but was quickly let down when I realized it was a marketer trying to sell me something.  I just thought of this idea, and I’m surprised I haven’t thought of it sooner, but I’m going to post something on my Facebook wall telling all of my friends and family what I’m looking for.  You never know who will read it and maybe the perfect opportunity will pop up!

I feel so much pressure to start making money, but I need for whatever job I find to be a good fit for me and my family.  My husband doesn’t seem to mind that my search is taking so long, but it’s starting to drive me crazy!  I was first spending all of my time reading about jobs, so at least I’m taking action now and actively seeking employment through different channels.  I’ve definitely gotten a lot faster at using my computer, that’s for sure!

My body has started to adjust to getting less sleep, and although I’m tired during the day with the kids, my eyes aren’t closing involuntarily anymore, so that’s a good sign!  I’ve always been a hard worker, dedicated to whatever job I’m asked to do, and I’m working just as hard, if not harder, at finding a new opportunity.  Hopefully for all of you other moms out there in the same position, this post will let you know that you’re not alone.  Just stay positive and take action every day and it will eventually pay off!

Gotta run…the kiddos are hitting each other!

-Katie

Kids Come First

Hey, everyone!  My name’s Katie.  I’m 29 years old and am married with two kids, ages 2 and 4.  Before I had our first child, my identity was consumed by my career.  I mean, I worked ALL the time and in the very little spare time I had to eat and sleep, I was thinking about my work or replying to e-mails.  At the time, I really enjoyed the work I was doing and didn’t mind the fact that I hardly ever saw my friends or family.

I got pregnant, and while I still worked way more than I should have, I just knew that I would be able to balance having a successful career and still be a good mother to our child.  We found a great daycare for our son, and while I enjoyed my maternity leave, I couldn’t wait to get back to work again.  It was sometimes hard for me to get away from work to come home and spend time with our son in the evening, but for the most part, I did a really great job of leaving my work at the office in order to spend quality time with him.

A year and a half later, I got pregnant again, and since working a full time job with one kid was doable, we just assumed that the second child would follow suit.  Boy, were we wrong.  About halfway into my pregnancy, I started having issues with my blood pressure.  I was put on bedrest, so I obviously had to take a leave of absence from my job.  My poor husband ran himself to death for two months between working full time, shuttling our son to daycare, feeding, bathing, and entertaining him in the evenings, and trying to take care of me as much as possible.  We did have some help from my mother, but for the most part, it was all on him.

Fast forward a month and a half…I went to the doctor for an exam and my blood pressure was out the roof.  They told me I would not be going home that day and that I would be admitted into the hospital.  I was monitored, poked, and prodded for two days, and when they couldn’t get my blood pressure to go down, decided to do an emergency C-Section in order to prevent any complications with me or the baby.  So if you’re doing the math, our daughter was born two months early, at 3 lbs 6 oz.  She spent a month in the NICU while her body continued to develop.  She had to learn how to breathe on her own, drink from a bottle, and gain weight before she was released to go home.  That was the longest month of my life (besides the month and a half I spent laying in bed).

Because our daughter was a preemie, the doctors strongly advised us to keep her indoors, keep guests to a minimum, and basically keep her in a bubble away from germs and changes in temperature.  They told us putting her in daycare would be one of the worst things we could do and that the best thing I could do for her was to breastfeed until she was at least a year old.  Now, with our son, I breastfed during my maternity leave, but as soon as I went back to work, I couldn’t keep up with pumping and my milk supply dried up pretty quickly.  So all of this, along with the fact that hiring a nanny to come to our home and keep our tiny, delicate daughter scared me to death.

We knew that we ultimately wanted to do what was best for our little girl, so I made the decision to quit my job and stay at home with her so that I could continue to breastfeed and give my undivided attention to her care and development.  Since we would be losing my income, we decided to pull my son out of daycare because we wouldn’t be able to afford it, and that is how I became a stay at home mom.  Never in my life did I imagine I would be staying at home with my children full time, staying in my pajamas half the day because there was just not time to take a shower and get dressed, but I am, and am so thankful that I get to spend such quality time with my kiddos during their early years.

Now that our daughter has caught up developmentally, I could probably go back to my career, but after taking so much time off and after seeing how much I actually enjoy staying home with my children, I don’t want to go back to a 40+ hour a week job.  My heart wouldn’t be in it, and I feel that it wouldn’t be fair to whoever hired me.

We have definitely missed my income these past couple of years, and although we have gone without a lot of things to make it work, we are now at the point where I need to start making some money so we won’t always have to tell our children “no” when they ask for something.  We want to be able to take them on trips, buy them cars when they are old enough to drive, pay for them to go to college, and basically give them a better life than we ever had.

I’ve started doing a lot of research about working from home and I just know I am going to find the perfect job that I can do to help our family financially while still spending as much quality time as I can with our children.  So that’s where this website comes in.  I plan to post about my experiences of becoming a work at home mom.  Hopefully I’ll hit the job jackpot in the very near future and then I’ll be able to tell you all about how you, too, can become a successful work at home mom!

Gotta run…the kiddos are calling!

-Katie